The Course of Love by Alain de Botton tracks the trajectory of the love affair from it's very beginning till it's end. It shows how Rabih and Kirsten fall in love, get married and set off on a journey where they believed all they need is love and eventually learnt that life just had different ideas.. , and how the dynamics of the relationship changes is being brought by touching upon following contents..
Romanticism..
Our understanding of love is being hijacked and beguiled by its first distractingly moving moments. we have allowed our love stories to end way too early. We seem to know far too much about how love starts, and recklessly little about how it might continue...
Marriage: a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don't know they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully omitted to investigate.
Ever After..
We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationship; all we need to have mastered is occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.
Children..
Children teach us that love is, in its purest form, a kind of service. We learn that being another's servant is not humiliating, quite the opposite, for it sets us free from the wearing responsibility of continuously catering to our own twisted, insatiable natures. We learn the relief and privilege of being granted something more important to live for than ourselves.
Adultery..
Marriage: a deeply peculiar and ultimately unkind thing to inflict on anyone one claims to care for.
Beyond Romanticism..
Rather than split up, we may need to tell ourselves more accurate stories- stories that don't dwell so much on beginning, that don't promise us complete understanding, that strive to normalize our troubles and show us melancholy yet hopeful path through the course of love.
Hence, The Course of Love is being brought out by Alain de Botton in a very meticulous and pragmatic manner.. Must read..!
Romanticism..
Our understanding of love is being hijacked and beguiled by its first distractingly moving moments. we have allowed our love stories to end way too early. We seem to know far too much about how love starts, and recklessly little about how it might continue...
Marriage: a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don't know they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully omitted to investigate.
Ever After..
We don't need to be constantly reasonable in order to have good relationship; all we need to have mastered is occasional capacity to acknowledge with good grace that we may, in one or two areas, be somewhat insane.
Children..
Children teach us that love is, in its purest form, a kind of service. We learn that being another's servant is not humiliating, quite the opposite, for it sets us free from the wearing responsibility of continuously catering to our own twisted, insatiable natures. We learn the relief and privilege of being granted something more important to live for than ourselves.
Adultery..
Marriage: a deeply peculiar and ultimately unkind thing to inflict on anyone one claims to care for.
Beyond Romanticism..
Rather than split up, we may need to tell ourselves more accurate stories- stories that don't dwell so much on beginning, that don't promise us complete understanding, that strive to normalize our troubles and show us melancholy yet hopeful path through the course of love.
Hence, The Course of Love is being brought out by Alain de Botton in a very meticulous and pragmatic manner.. Must read..!
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